Preparing yourself for parenting

You work hard the entire day, and the moment you step home, your baby welcomes you with a cute smile. Seems perfect, isn't it? Having babies is definitely a pleasant experience since they bring a lot of joy to life. However, they also bring in more responsibility. So, if you are thinking to start a family, here are seven questions you must ask yourself before taking the plunge.

Is it just an instinct? After attaining a certain comfort level in the relationship, you may feel like having a baby. If you see a couple spending some quality time with their kids in a park, your parental instincts start knocking. However, see the big picture, like financial issues or adjustment problems. Do not take a hasty decision driven by emotions.

Are your finances in good shape? Having a baby is expensive, right from the time you conceive. Hence, you need to make sure you are financially stable to support a child. Being financially sound doesn't mean just your savings, it also means emergency funds, medical insurance as well as policies for your and the baby's future.

Is life already perfect? You are at the best stage in your career, have a fabulous social life and an equally amazing love life. Once you decide to enjoy parenthood, you might have to take a career break and sacrifice your social life. Are you ready to make these changes? Being happy and childless doesn't mean you are selfish or that something's wrong with our fundamentals, it's a major life decision.

Are you under pressure? Especially in a country like ours, the first question a couple is asked after the wedding is when they plan to have a baby. Having a baby is a decision that you have to take based on your preferences.

Is your relationship strong enough? The popular belief of a baby bridging the gap between you and your spouse might just be a myth.The first few days after having a baby might be lovely, but in the long run, you might think it was a wrong decision, especially if you and our spouse are not on the same page. Concentrate on the two of you first and make your relationship better. When you are sure all is well in your paradise, then start planning for a baby.

Do you or your spouse gave genetic complications? It's important for couples to get a thorough medical check-up done before planning for a baby. You need to ensure none of you have any serious ailments or genetic complications. After all, you don't want your child to suffer. Seek professional help before planning a baby.know if you are ready

Are you ready for more chores? Being parents is the most selfless job ever as you would be putting your independent self on the shelf (for some time, at least). This is something you need to be mentally prepared for. Are you okay giving up hours with friends, time in the gym and quality time with your partner to equally important chores like feeding the baby, changing the nappy, sanitising his/her clothes or simply spending managing other household chores after putting the baby to sleep? If you have a hectic work schedule and are hardly left with any stamina at the end of the day, you might want to rethink your decision as a baby would add more to your daily schedule. Discuss this with your spouse before you take the big decision.